How are You Showing Up?

Dating after Divorce

Soooooo…your dating app queue is currently showing all the wrong types of men

Too far away

Not compatible

Weird

Scammers

That definitely happens

I don’t know anyone who’s used a dating app and hasn’t had the same queue at one time or another

It isn’t fun, but letting it drag you into despair and overwhelm isn’t necessary

You don’t have to entertain the super scary thoughts

Thinking all your chances are gone

Thinking you won’t ever meet a guy

Thinking it’s hopeless and you’ll be alone forever

Thinking no one will love the real you

And I know it all feels true

But it’s just the default thinking that surfaces when you don’t have your goal YET

When you haven’t met a goal, your brain’s default choice of thoughts is that it will NEVER happen

The uncoached brain is like a kid on a road trip saying, “Are we there yet, are we there yet?” a thousand times on the way

Just because you’re not there yet has no bearing on when you will achieve your goal

You could meet someone TODAY

Letting the brain run all over creates a high pressure, desperate, and frustrated attitude that eventually spirals down into despair 

If you don’t resolve this rollercoaster will create an attitude that comes out in how you engage with the dating process

It shows up in the way you communicate with men and the way you talk about yourself

It dampens your creativity and zest for life

It shows up in the way you connect and the way you build relationships

You get into tunnel vision and forget that you already have so much life to live and you can enjoy TODAY

You look around your very tiny bubble and think “there’s no one out there” - forgetting just how big the world is and how you couldn’t exhaust all the relationship opportunities that exist if you tried

Those thoughts make the dating process an awful experience

They become a self-fulfilling prophecy that end with you sitting on the couch in your pajamas every weekend

You get so disappointed that you take yet another 3 month break

Instead of embracing the life you DO have and making the most of every opportunity

But...

I’d like you to know that you’re not alone

Everyone experiences this toddler brain at some level

Like I said, it’s the brain's default mode

It interprets everything that happens as a reason to go into fight, flight or freeze mode

It throws a tantrum when it doesn’t get its way

I’m very familiar with my own brain and have multiple tools and techniques to help you tame it

So that your thoughts and emotions support you all the way into the arms of Mr. Right

In my coaching program, we deal with this issue when it comes around - and it can come round a few times

It’s the mindset part of the program that keeps your thoughts moving along the track of success instead of the track of despair

I teach you what to expect at each phase of the dating process and how to approach it with a powerful mindset

When your mental strength is up and can keep up your strategic optimism, you are able to stay on track

You have the motivation and engagement to keep meeting and dating without being too focused on the challenges of each phase

You get to see that each phase has its own characteristics and they are all just stepping stones on the journey

Working with me helps you solidify and stay focused your WHY for the relationship you want and gets you fortified for the journey ahead

I coach you every week to keep your belief, energy and attitude at 100% the whole way as you work the custom action plan that we create specifically for dating success in your unique situation

You get to enjoy your amazing life now while working on the life you want

Because you’re beautiful, capable and 100% lovable already

Schedule your consult call today: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment


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