Is Your Partner Moody?
My ex was “moody”
I lived with him for 17 years and I had no idea how terrible it was for my mental health
Silent treatment, sulkiness and having to walk on eggshells to avoid a grown man throwing a tantrum over stupid little things will make anxiety and depression feel like a normal way to live
Leaving was like breathing fresh winter air after being trapped in a sewer
I was in so much gratitude last night as I thought about this
There are zero “moody” humans in my life right now
It’s insane that this has to be a thing, but moodiness is toxic
When you live with a person like that, everyone around them shifts and adjusts how they live to accommodate the crazy
And everyone around them becomes sick in their own way - because they are not living to be who they are
They are living to satisfy someone else’s inability to be an adult
It’s a dysfunctional and traumatic dynamic
Am I promoting divorce?
Yes - it’s the best thing that ever happened to me and my children
I plan on promoting divorce in 2023 (fair warning to those with tender tummies)
But the first step is awareness
Stop ignoring this dynamic if it’s happening in your life
Take the time to write down what’s going on
Document it every day for thirty days so you can start to get clarity
Then talk to someone
Not your friend or your pastor
They love you and want to see you happy, but they don’t have the mental health training to help you with this
And they tend to want to keep things together at all cost - that cost will likely be your mental health
A clinically licensed therapist is your best bet
It can take a minute to find one who works for you, so don’t give up on the first try
You’ll know you’ve got it right when you slowly get clarity on what’s going on in your life and they are able to fill in the gaps on situations that are confusing and distressing to you
You’ll know if they have recommendations and tools to help you create the emotional resilience you need before you make a decision
Living moody-person-free is to know what being truly alive is
It’s worth whatever it costs to get free
If you’ve divorced from this dynamic and want to work with me to heal from the after effects so you can create your best life after divorce, schedule a consult call.