It’s bad enough that there are “no good men out there”
Now it seems dating makes you look stupid to people important to you
Your family, friends, the “nebulous they,” the men on the apps, real or imagined, you know they’ll have something to say about it
So you second-guess every move you make
Take bare-minimum action
You open the app and shut it again
You wait for the perfect “movie star” profile to come along before you swipe right
You wait for the guys to send the first message
You pass on anyone that might not meet your friends’ cuteness standards
Analysis paralysis - You think you’re dating but a month passes between every decision you make
Or taking all the advice that doesn’t work
All to avoid the feeling of shame that comes from their comments
Some days I’m coaching a client and it’s as though I’m coaching her aunties, her mother, and all her girlfriends all in one session
We live in a culture where everyone has something to say about your relationship
Dating and romance are the stuff of entertainment, so it seems fair game
Listen. Some people are just not going to agree with the dating process that works for you.
You need to be willing to take full ownership of your dating journey
Make the decisions that are right for you, even if others don’t approve
Develop a tolerance for the disapproval of others
And stop shrinking back in the face of their disappointment
This takes courage and deep belief that you’re capable and that your person is out there waiting for you
When this happens, you’ll stop taking others’ comments personally
You’ll stop second-guessing every move and build the willingness to make some mistakes along the way
You’ll take next steps quickly, adjusting and getting better every time
You’ll stop taking breaks for months on end
When you get here, you’ll get one to two new dates with good men every week, leading to meeting your partner in less than six months
Fearing others’ opinions blocks meeting your new partner
I can help you move past this to get your dating journey done forever
Let’s talk to see if my process is a fit for you
Schedule a consult call with me.