4 Shifts My Client Made to Meet an Amazing Man in a Small Town
My client met an amazing man last week, in a town of less than 20K people!
It’s early days, but he is different - genuinely sweet, loves children, a gentleman, PLUS he’s cute and healthy (she’s super healthy and this was a dealbreaker)
More importantly, SHE IS DIFFERENT
This is the result of the seismic shift in her thinking
To become an emotional match for this man, we got to the heart of why she attracted other types for years:
Family drama that kept her in a cycle of fixing, people-pleasing, self-deprecation and chaos on a daily basis, leaving no space for healthy love
She’d never experienced a real loving male presence, so all her frames of reference for men were negative
She had a pattern of anxious thinking that kept her overwhelmed about time, exhausted at work, and in constant drama with people
She over-functioned in her past relationships and would shrink herself to please the men she dated - which was what she had absorbed from women in her family
These root causes showed up as “justified” stressing about “the men out there are disappointing,” “this town is too small,” “there’s no time to date” and “dating is exhausting.”
She blamed herself for being single and felt there was something fundamentally wrong with her
What did coaching with me do for her?
My “Becoming Irresistible” self-discovery work helped her see how amazing she truly is (it also doubles as the best framework for a gorgeous dating profile)
She learned to date online and offline and shift her thinking about both from negative to positive - it paid off, she met this man through her network
We shifted her old relationship patterns. She learned to observe them and stop repeating them
She shifted her emotional imprint for men through the Good Man Scavenger Hunt and Day in the Life of Love Exercises
Using my Online Dating Funnel to evaluate men versus knee-jerk emotional responses
She built a new network of friends, community and a fun social life
She found evidence that there were always good men all around her. We cleaned up the dirt on her windows so she could see them
Best of all, she’s dating someone whose company she enjoys. He calls, texts and wants to see her again
Her next step? Using is to use my Gates & Milestones process for evaluating for a LTR
Whether or not he’s the one, he is her new baseline for the men
She knows exactly how she created this result and how do it over and over until she’s partnered
If you are ready to speed up your journey to meeting good men, so that you find a relationship you love ASAP, schedule a consultation call with me