Where to Date After Divorce: Finding the Right Partner While Avoiding Narcissists
Dating after divorce can feel overwhelming, especially for women over 40 navigating today's complex dating landscape. If you're wondering when you're ready to date again and how to avoid narcissists and low-effort men, this guide will help you develop the mindset and skills you need.
The Truth About Where to Meet Quality Men
Trying to date only in places where you can avoid running into narcissistic people is pretty much impossible.
I met my ex in church. We had mutual friends. We checked all the boxes. Only problem?
He turned out to be a covert narcissist who was able to mirror those around him for short periods of time to appear like a good guy.
The fact that it was church and a college network did not guarantee me protection from choosing wrong.
Why did I choose him then? My mindset.
This is why it doesn't matter where you meet a man when dating after divorce.
Your ability to know and choose what's right for you is what matters.
Without this skill, you get tricked into thinking that he couldn't be a narcissist just because he works in your office, or goes to your church, or you met in the grocery store (like in the movies!)
The Dating Reality for Women Over 40
Every type of person is present at every level. I've coached women divorcing from narcissistic millionaires who owned private planes and women divorcing from men who refused to work, or couldn't keep a job.
I've coached women who met non-committal, low-effort men on dating apps, through matchmakers, and in person.
The truth is that dating on an app is the same as dating in person and is the same as dating through a matchmaker.
The fear of failure or fear of bad experiences tricks you into thinking they're different.
What you need is the self-trust that you are 100% equipped to make the right choice in a new partner no matter where you meet him.
Developing the Right Dating Mindset After Divorce
What makes the difference is you and your mindset.
What makes the difference is whether you know how to discern and evaluate character without second-guessing and overthinking.
What makes the difference is your full belief that the right partner for you is out there and you can lean into that abundance instead of choosing from FOMO (fear of missing out).
The skill you need is how to figure out if he's right for you without wasting time.
One key to this is your ideal partner list. When crafted with the right attributes, it's your guiding light to the man of your dreams.
Essential Dating Questions to Ask Yourself and Potential Partners
When you work with me:
I help you prepare your ideal partner list, your relationship vision, and your own self-discovery so you know exactly what to look for in your future partner and you are in tune with yourself - your intuition, your needs and wants
I help you create opportunities to gather the information you need from the men you date through strategic dating questions
We walk through a decision-making process that helps you make the decision deliberately and with clarity
You learn to communicate your "yes" or "no" gracefully and confidently
No more confusion, overthinking, and asking every person in your family tree for their opinion.
Just a straightforward dating journey that gets you to love in a year or less.
If you're wondering when you're ready to date again and want to avoid wasting time with low-effort men, schedule a consultation call with me to talk about the ways we can work together.