Don't Change Yourself When Dating After Divorce
It's easier to find a man who loves and accepts you for who you are than to change yourself into a whole new personality that you think will be "acceptable" when you start dating again.
When you're ready to date after divorce, especially for women over 40, the world often sends a message that you need to change yourself, shrink yourself, and become smaller so that you can be loved. But that approach only attracts low-effort men who will do or say things to keep you small so that they feel comfortable around you.
No, thank you.
Real love is EXPANSIVE. Real love CELEBRATES YOU.
In my dating process, we don't twist ourselves into pretzels to please others. We live our very best lives out loud to attract the men who are living that same level of excellence. This is especially important for divorced women in the United States who are navigating the dating scene with wisdom from past experiences.
We heal from and let go of shame. We learn how to be visible. We ask for what we want.
Before jumping back into dating, take time to ask yourself these important dating questions:
"When am I truly ready to date?"
"What kind of relationship do I really want?"
"What boundaries must I maintain while dating?"
We show up fun, flirty, and happy. We connect, we participate, we shine. We enjoy the journey to love.
Because the experience you're having when you are dating is the barometer of what you are creating. Self-doubt and making yourself wrong only creates a painful experience. Settling for a low-effort man after divorce leads to disappointment.
Self-love, self-advocacy, confidence, and authenticity is the path to healthy dating relationships. We create this process weekly in my 1:1 coaching sessions for divorced women across the United States who are ready to approach dating with renewed purpose.
You are in charge. You decide the experience you want to have in your dating journey, and you create it.