How to Create a Dating Profile That Attracts the Right Man After Divorce
Creating a dating profile that attracts attention from countless men is actually counterproductive when you're dating after divorce, especially as a woman over 40. Your goal isn't to have "all the men" messaging you—it's about attracting your ideal match who truly resonates with your authentic self.
Focus on Quality, Not Quantity in Dating
When you're ready to date again, remember that success comes from alignment, not volume. Your ideal partner should match your values on multiple levels:
Spiritually
Emotionally
Intellectually
Lifestyle preferences
Your dating profile should speak directly to this man, using language and details that make him sit up and think, "That's exactly what I've been looking for!" This targeted approach filters out low-effort men who aren't willing to invest in a real connection.
Stand Out From Generic Dating Profiles
Avoid sounding interchangeable with every other woman on dating apps. You're not generic—you're unique, a star like no other, and your profile should reflect the real YOU.
Is this a tall order? Not if you've done the inner work to understand who you really are. Your authentic self is what determines who would be the right partner for you.
Dating Questions to Ask Yourself Before Creating Your Profile
Before diving into the dating pool, ask yourself:
What makes me unique compared to other women my age?
What values are non-negotiable in my next relationship?
What dating lessons did I learn from my marriage?
Am I truly ready to date, or am I still healing?
Success Story: Finding Love After Divorce
My client Ginger met her perfect match in April, just three weeks after we refined her dating profile. By clearly communicating her authentic self, she attracted a man who appreciated her depth and wasn't intimidated by a woman who knew her worth.
If you're dating online after divorce, an effective profile accelerates your journey and makes it simpler to connect with the person you're looking for. The right profile helps you avoid wasting time with men who see your standards as "too much work" and encourages them to "move merrily along to waste someone else's time."
When Am I Ready to Date Again?
Creating an authentic profile requires knowing yourself deeply. This self-knowledge is the foundation of successful dating after divorce. When you understand what makes you unique and can communicate that effectively, you'll naturally attract compatible partners and repel those who aren't right for you.
And this is just the beginning of the work we do together to accelerate your journey from divorce to finding a fulfilling partnership or remarriage—without settling for a low-effort man who doesn't meet your standards.