Do you love your single life or are you just avoiding growth?
I once had a conversation with a divorced lady in a travel group who said she had zero desire to get married again
I totally believed her
Her zest for life was evident
She was growing and changing and doing EVERYTHING else she wanted to do
She had traveled solo to many countries
She was doing work she loved
She was enjoying vibrant relationships and feeling fully alive
This is very different from staying single because it’s easier
The fear of intimacy after divorce is a very real issue
When you've been hurt that deeply, the last thing you want is to get hurt again
So you find ways to keep your distance from the risk of making a commitment
You settle for basic romantic relationships with non-committal partners
Someone to fill the space, knowing you won’t ever have to sign the dotted line
Long-distance relationships with no plans to move closer
You dabble half-heartedly off and on the apps
Just something to entertain yourself and pass time with a few text conversations
This way, you never have to address just how stuck you still are in past hurts
If things don’t work out, it’s because of all the weirdos out there
You get busy with keeping life comfortable and safe
Every time the desire for more comes up, you squelch it
And over time that squelching muscle becomes a habit
Because you've given your brain so much power to suppress your desires for a relationship
It soon starts to suppress your desire to make more money
It suppresses your desire to write a book, run a business, travel, make an impact
It makes everything about dating appear excessively difficult
Swiping your finger 2 inches on your phone feels as exhausting as hauling bricks
You tell yourself you’re busy with the kids and work and all the other busy things
But you still spend hours ruminating, overthinking the little things, doing busywork, scrolling social media, watching videos, worrying, venting and complaining
Doing everything other than what you REALLY want to do with your life
You don't use the time to create a new relationship but you don’t use it for something else just as awesome
Listen, creating a relationship is just a container for personal growth
A vehicle for bringing up all the junk and getting it out of the way so that you show up to engage and enjoy the very best life has to offer
The process stretches and grows you and makes you come alive in amazing new ways
Just like traveling the world did for the lady in my group
It’s time to get off the sidelines and get in the game of life
So, do you love your single life or are you just avoiding growth?
If you’re not sure, I can help you get to clarity on a single consultation call. Schedule with me here: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment