Dating After Divorce: A Fresh Approach for Women Over 40
Normalize a Good Dating Experience
Nobody would tell you that getting a new job was an awful experience.
They wouldn't warn you that you shouldn't be so desperate, and you'll get eaten alive if you put your resume out there.
Or suggest you learn to love unemployment, because a new job will appear when you're not looking.
So why do we say these things about finding romantic partnership?
We've normalized a dating experience that is confusing, stressful, and painful—either bracing for heartbreak or opting out completely. We've accepted relationships that are emotionally flat and disconnected, leaving us to either settle for the basics or abandon the search for connection altogether.
But those aren't your only options.
A Better Path Forward for Dating After Divorce
Once you understand the building blocks of effective dating and healthy relationships, you can create a direct path to the relationship you want. But it requires a complete re-education. You need to:
Unlearn the "rules" that keep you passive, hidden, and afraid of the journey
Learn a process that makes selecting an emotionally healthy partner as straightforward and laudable as landing a new job
Dating Questions to Ask Yourself
Are you tired of connecting with low-effort men who don't match your energy? Wonder when you're truly ready to date again after divorce? The journey begins with asking yourself the right questions.
My Simple System for Dating Success After 40
I teach a straightforward system for meeting, connecting with, and creating relationships with men who are a genuine match for you:
Connect with who you are - Gain clarity about yourself, your desires, and your direction to recognize compatible partners.
Decide who matches you - Create a blueprint for the relationship you want, which guides where and how you date.
Meet potential partners strategically - Connect with matching people both online and offline in sufficient numbers to reach your goal.
Create authentic interactions - Show up as your true self with all your uniqueness, asking meaningful dating questions that reveal compatibility.
Evaluate compatibility - Assess who's a fit and confidently move forward or end it, recognizing when you're dealing with a low-effort man.
Nurture commitment - Build an exclusive relationship with the right person.
When Am I Ready to Date Again?
The process can be simple, even if it feels like learning steps to a new dance. No one is born knowing how to do this, and unfortunately, we don't get taught these skills in school.
I had to learn and implement every single one of these steps to create my own relationship. It's different from what you might expect, but totally doable.
If you're actively dating after divorce but not getting the results you want, let's talk about walking you through this process all the way to your new relationship—one where you won't settle for low-effort men or connections that don't fulfill you.