What if Dating After Divorce Could Be EASY?
I like to see dating after divorce as a growth journey with twists and turns, but you come out on the other side transformed and holding the prize of a relationship you love.
Instead of wishing away the hard parts of the dating journey, I help my clients grow and transform into the woman for whom the journey to her partner is easy.
Are You Ready to Date Again?
When am I ready to date is a question many divorced women over 40 ask themselves. The answer lies in choosing interpretations that give your journey momentum:
The part where you get frustrated after 2 months of searching? That's where you learn to stick with commitment to a goal.
The part where you get ghosted? That's where you learn to stop investing your emotions in other people's actions.
The part where you fall in love and he turns out to be a low-effort man? That's where you uplevel your ability to see people clearly.
The part where you aren't getting what you want in a relationship? That's where you learn to ask directly for what you want.
The part where your dating app queue comes up empty? That's where you learn how to 10x your creativity and create new connection opportunities.
The part where you're ready to go exclusive and he hasn't said anything? That's where you learn how to step up as an equal partner and create the relationship you want.
Essential Dating Questions to Ask
As you navigate dating after divorce, knowing the right dating questions to ask can transform your experience:
Ask yourself: "What am I learning from this challenge?"
Ask potential partners: "How do you show up for the people you care about?"
Ask your date: "What does partnership mean to you?"
All of it is part of the process.
There's no need to be frustrated when what we expect shows up.
The best surgeon isn't worried when there's blood when she cuts her patient open.
She knows that this is the part where the patient bleeds and she uses a clamp to stop the bleeding.
It's just part of the process and she just keeps going until the surgery is done.
Reframing Your Dating Journey
What if all the aspects of dating that you spend time venting and complaining about were just part of the process?
You could learn to take them in stride, and fully engage with all of it, the fun and the not-so-fun.
And you get to come out the other side with an amazing you and an amazing relationship.
If you want a real relationship after divorce, embrace the journey – even the parts where you encounter a low-effort man or question when am I ready to date again.
Your transformation awaits.