Dating profiles go beyond taking 5 cute pictures, 1 activity shot and 1 full-body shot
At least they do if you want to cut to the chase of only dating people you are in sync with you
When I was dating online, one of my profile pictures was a display of books
But not just any stack of books
A stack of books that messaged who I was culturally, politically, and personally
It also indicated places that I liked to hang out
The conversations I liked to have and things I enjoyed doing
And it spoke directly to the person I wanted
In a language he would understand, but would make others scratch their heads
But before you break out a stack of books and go rushing to take a picture
Understand that it wasn’t about the books
It was about knowing myself and my person so well that I could use words and pictures to signal him that I was here
And it worked
I share the details of this process in a module of the Dating after Divorce program called “Irresistible You”
It’s a deep dive, exploratory process to uncover what it is about you that will call out to the man you want
It takes a little bit of time to go through this
But when you're done, you will have uncovered the unique description that needs to go on your profile
And so far, none of my clients has had used a stack of books - because each of them uncovered her own unique message
They showed up as they truly are - attracting the right one and repelling the wrong ones
Another example:
One client, a writer with three published books, was getting a few too many weird messages from guys who wanted to “hang out”
Her hobbies listed on the profile included trying new foods, hiking, reading, and writing
So we went through the deep dive and removed the more generic hobbies
Then added the fact that her perfect first date would be an evening at a book signing or university lecture
And immediately the “hanger-outer” numbers plummeted
I guess they weren’t up for a book-signing adventure
But she knew that her perfect person would resonate with it
I have a different example of this messaging for every client
Each of them creates a profile as individual as she is
The Irresistible You Deep Dive goes beyond your profile to give clarity on conversations and questions to determine compatibility
It gives you the questions to ask, the dates to arrange and where to go to organically meet the man you want
Once you know who you are, you can express it and stand out from the crowd to the man you want
If dating hasn’t been the straightforward process you’d like it to be, I want to assure you that there’s nothing wrong with you
You’re simply missing the steps to craft a dating journey that works for YOU
There’s no one size that fits all
I can teach you how to create a profile that attracts the guy you want and makes the others decide to keep it moving
I also teach you how to take the deep dives and use them to show up not just on a dating profile, but EVERYWHERE you go
You can use the same process to show up in the real world in a way that pulls in the person you want to be with
Schedule a call with my link in bio to get started doing this work
Consults are a focused hour of space to deep dive into your dating situation (or lack of one!)
We look at your whole life and the healthy, loving relationship you want to create, and we discuss the ways that I can help you get there.
The focus of the call is to show what coaching can look like for you, give you clarity about your path and to make a decision about working together that you feel delighted with
Ready to create something new? Book a call with me here: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment