3 Dating Blindspots and How to Shift Them

January 18, 2023 Sade Curry

I have a long list of blindspots that keep amazing women from meeting loving partners

These blindspots seem like facts.

But when shifted, the biggest breakthroughs happen in dating

I'm not talking about big old crazy-family-trauma thinking patterns.

It's the itty-bitty, normalized societal thinking that keeps us stuck.

I'll share 3 here:

One, “It’s not the right time.”

Pray when has anything ever been the perfect right time? We accept that it’s the right time when someone else says so -

“You’re 5 now. This is the right time for kindergarten, honey.”

But we all know that IT DID NOT FEEL RIGHT to that little baby.

She screamed bloody murder as mom carried her into that strange building

But she went in anyway, and thirty years later, she’s reading this post because she’s learned to read

Part of the journey is taking the first step that might not feel right onto the path that creates WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU

Two, “I’m busy. I need to focus on work. I can’t find the space for dating”

Again, when was the last time you found an unused box of time, waiting for you to use it for anything?

You MAKE TIME for the thing if you’re ever going to get it.

We make time every day for things we DON’T EVEN WANT TO DO: taxes, unclogging the toilet, calling that relative.

You plan to have time to snuggle and adventure with your future hottie honey, right?

Use that time NOW to get out there and find them.

The 3rd thing: “The dating landscape is awful and needs to change before I engage.”

This last one tugs at my heart because you do hear about some messy things out there in the dating world.

But we overemphasize the worst and make it way scarier than it is

Humans always love to talk about the worst relationship scenarios.

You have a one-hour movie and the happy ending is only 5 minutes

A happy couple who met after divorce, living life in peace, laughing over coffee, and being financially stable is boring

That’s why you don’t hear about them

But they exist and you can be them

My clients blow these blindspots up every week in our sessions

You can experience this for yourself in my next 3-Day Workshop, “How to Create an Extraordinary Life and Love after Divorce”

January 24 - 26 at 7pm CST

💟DAY 1: HOW TO ACHIEVE ANY GOAL (NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES YOU FAILED BEFORE)

💟DAY 2: HOW TO CHANGE OLD PATTERNS & HABITS FOREVER

💟DAY 3: 5 ESSENTIAL STEPS FOR DATING AFTER DIVORCE