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Other People's Opinions About Your Dating Journey

It’s bad enough that there are “no good men out there”

Now it seems dating makes you look stupid to people important to you

Your family, friends, the “nebulous they,” the men on the apps, real or imagined, you know they’ll have something to say about it

So you second-guess every move you make

Take bare-minimum action

You open the app and shut it again

You wait for the perfect “movie star” profile to come along before you swipe right

You wait for the guys to send the first message

You pass on anyone that might not meet your friends’ cuteness standards

Analysis paralysis - You think you’re dating but a month passes between every decision you make

Or taking all the advice that doesn’t work

All to avoid the feeling of shame that comes from their comments

Some days I’m coaching a client and it’s as though I’m coaching her aunties, her mother, and all her girlfriends all in one session

We live in a culture where everyone has something to say about your relationship

Dating and romance are the stuff of entertainment, so it seems fair game

Listen. Some people are just not going to agree with the dating process that works for you.

You need to be willing to take full ownership of your dating journey

Make the decisions that are right for you, even if others don’t approve

Develop a tolerance for the disapproval of others

And stop shrinking back in the face of their disappointment

This takes courage and deep belief that you’re capable and that your person is out there waiting for you

When this happens, you’ll stop taking others’ comments personally

You’ll stop second-guessing every move and build the willingness to make some mistakes along the way

You’ll take next steps quickly, adjusting and getting better every time

You’ll stop taking breaks for months on end

When you get here, you’ll get one to two new dates with good men every week, leading to meeting your partner in less than six months

Fearing others’ opinions blocks meeting your new partner

I can help you move past this to get your dating journey done forever

Let’s talk to see if my process is a fit for you

Schedule a consult call with me.

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