How My Client Found Her 6ft Tall Love in 4 Months (A Dating After Divorce Success Story)
My clients 100% have a better dating experience than I did. Why? Because I didn't have me to walk through it with.
Today, I am wrapping up the last month of 6 months of coaching with a client, L., who met her new partner last October. We're working through the important dating questions to ask before committing to getting engaged and buying a house together.
She is absolutely over the moon about her new boo.
In her own words: "We are at four months now, and he's still amazing. I always think I'm gonna wake up and not like him or something, but I'm really in love with him.
We really communicate and are very respectful of each other.
He's very kind and smart. And more alike than I thought initially even though we do have differences in our hobbies and stuff. He's very supportive of my business, and I've been so much more confident at work since I met him."
When Am I Ready to Date? Her Journey
When L. started working with me, she knew 100% she wanted a partner. She wasn't dabbling or using the apps out of boredom or loneliness - clear signs she was genuinely ready for dating after divorce.
She'd never been on a dating app. Her first look at the apps definitely freaked her out.
But she went all in and met her man in 4 months and 22 first dates.
Best part? She did not have a single bad date!
How Did She Do It?
I helped her become 100% clear about what she wanted, while being flexible on things she couldn't control.
We laugh about how I made her take off "a full head of hair" and "6ft. 5in" from her Ideal Partner list. She did it, but guess what her new boo has?
A full head of salt and pepper hair and he is over 6ft tall!
I helped her create time to date. If you don't have time to date, you don't have time to invest in a healthy relationship and you won't attract it. Period. This is crucial for avoiding the low-effort man trap.
Between her travels for business and to care for her aging parents, L. created a new relationship with time that made space for love.
She learned to use the dating apps from scratch. She created a profile that attracted the best of guys and she learned how to swipe with zero drama and ignore anyone who wasn't for her.
She stuck to her boundaries, evaluated green and red flags and learned to say "no" even when it was hard and she felt anxious about it. These are essential dating questions to ask yourself throughout the process.
When she needed the right verbiage, I was there to help her craft it.
She kept her commitment space clear for the One. With every man she met, she learned not to commit until he had passed all the tests for the One. This took time.
She had to keep dating and learning until she made a decision that he was or wasn't the one.
A Better Dating Experience
L. had a way better experience than I did when I was dating.
But that's the whole point.
I went through the weirdness and yuckiness of dating after divorce, and it helped me design a process that keeps the mess to a minimum for women over 40 across the United States.
In a world where dating looks like a horror show, I have a path that cuts through the melodrama and gets you to your amazing partner.
If you're divorced, know 100% you want a life partner and want to stop wasting time with less than fulfilling relationships - especially with the low-effort man type - you can join the Dating After Divorce Academy right now.