The perfect guy will come in the “right package” not in a “perfect package”
The loving affectionate man may be a bit of a people pleaser
The ambitious high-excellence man may want to take his laptop on vacation
The handy dandy DIY guy may not want to pick up a book
The cute Ph.D. may like his meat and potatoes
The fitness buddy might run from dance classes
The growth-minded, podcast-loving man may not want to go to the gym more than twice a week
Now, this is not a call to settle in the relationship you choose
This is not an invitation to keep the non-committal, low-effort, avoidant in your orbit
Nor an invitation to accept relationships that don’t serve you
It’s the opposite
The call is to shift out of the tendency to think in extremes aka all-or-nothing thinking
This a call to deep dive into what REALLY is a nourishing, feels-like-home relationship for you
And let go of conditioning from past relationships and the media
It goes beyond making a simple list of 10 qualities to look for in a man
It's turning your attention inward and engaging your true self and what is meaningful to you
Owning your brilliance and being willing to express it no matter what others think
And learning how to recognize the man who was always meant for you
And recognizing every man who isn’t that so you can move on without wasting time
This is the relationship education we all needed in high school
Some of my clients are unaware of what a good man looks, smells, talks, and walks like
So I help them reset their unconscious imprint of who is healthy and who isn’t
Humans select partners based on the personalities we became conditioned to early on
Without awareness, what love looked like when we were young remains what love looks like now
And sometimes, we try to run from that imprint and swing to the other extreme
I have a client who swiped left on every physician on the app because she had grown up with several physicians
Those experiences gave her the thought error “They are all OCD”
Even though there were non-physicians in her family that also had OCD tendencies
The issue was genetic, not professional
The unchallenged belief led her to dismiss men at her intellectual level
Whatever the thought error looks like for a client, we shift it when we coach together
We uncover her old relationship imprint and reset it to a real, clear, healthy vision
One of the ways we do that is by creating opportunities for her to observe and engage with healthy men even if they aren't a potential partner
In-person experiences are the best reset button to what healthy relationships look and feel like
We also screen share while she swipes on the dating apps
And coach on the moment-by-moment decisions about who to swipe right or left on
We keep what’s working and change the thought errors
This leads to the client creating a steady stream of good men and 1 - 2 enjoyable first dates every week
We review her dates so she can make decisions about each one
Sometimes we rate the men on a % of what she's looking for to show the "why" of each decision
We tweak the process so she connects with even more healthy, compatible men who are on her wavelength
Until she meets the one who is a 100% YES
And they ride off together into the sunset of connection and shared time together
Dinners out, shared coffee in the morning, vacation, and a guaranteed plus-1 forever
Instead of the Friday blues wondering what to do on the weekend
If your dating experience swings from “perfect package” men who don’t want to commit
To “Ugh-but-maybe-this-is-the-best-I-can-get” and “At-least-he’s-not-a-narcissist” men
Work with me now to change that to “the-right-man-in-the-right-package” for you
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