Take the Pressure off Dating
Today’s episode is all about how much pressure you experience when you’re dating.
If you feel pressure it’s probably coming from fear that something will go wrong and trying to do all you can to prevent that outcome.
This takes energy away from enjoying dating and staying unattached. It creates exhaustion.
I explain some of the thoughts that lead to feelings of pressure in the dating process and how to deal with them.
When you learn to handle these thoughts and feelings, you are able to release pressure, relax and date with ease, knowing that you can handle whatever comes.
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Relationship Inventory
On this episode, I talk about a tool I occasionally use in my coaching practice, and that's the relationship inventory.
A relationship inventory is a walk through I do with my clients on all their past romantic relationships . It is really helpful in navigating thoughts that are keeping you stuck in your dating journey.
It's something that you should give a shot. Make a list and walk through it. Ask yourself those deep questions.
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Breasts, Vulvas and Hips: How Beauty Standards Impact Your Dating Journey with Chanci Dawn
“And if we don't feel like we have a voice with each other, to be able to express these insecurities, and to be able to, like, get curious and love ourselves and love each other through it through these types of conversations. It keeps us caged.”
“So I want to talk about everything, everything that we struggle with, and let's love with compassion ourselves through it.”
“And you feel that in your heart, your heart's mind, ‘what is right for me,’ this is your soul speaking, ‘what is my definition of beauty?’ What is pleasurable to me? What is right for me? That is my soul.”
“When we can start to wake up the senses, externally and internally. And really like go ‘Oh my goodness, body you are capable of so much feeling. And I get to experience the world and my life through these internal and external felt senses.’ That is a gift that your body alone gives you nothing else, you can't experience that without this body.”
“ And when we're so focused on our external appearance…we do lose connection with what our body is actually here for and those internal felt senses is a whole other universe that we are not taught.”
My guest on the podcast this week is Chanci Dawn.
Chanci Dawn coaches, speaks and advocates for freedom and love. Freedom from the chaos of the diet culture and love, the deepest kind of love, for yourself, your body, and the gift of food.
Chanci believes that when a woman makes peace with food and her body she is set free to focus her time, energy and brainpower on things that truly matter - making this work a powerful form of activism!
To support women on their own journey to freedom Chanci currently offers 1-1 and group coaching as well as a podcast titled "It Tastes Like Freedom". In her downtime, you can find Chanci in the forest or on the boat exploring the beautiful West Coast shoreline of her home - Vancouver Island Canada.
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Dating And Massive Action
If you haven't gotten the result you want from your dating journey, there's something missing in the actions you're taking.
Not getting the result does not mean the result is not available
It just means you haven't gotten the result YET.
It means you need to take more of the RIGHT KIND OF ACTION.
This episode breaks down what massive action really is, the quantity, quality and other considerations you need to successfully meet your new partner after divorce
If the result is what you want in this one life we have, if it's important to you, then you have to keep going.
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Dating and How to Rewrite Your Story with Cledra Gross
“And the way that experience expanded me, emotionally, psychologically. I like to say…you're looking at a woman where the worst happened, and I made it.”
“For some people, divorce is the worst. And I want you to know, there's hope after that, that as long as you have a pulse…you have possibilities.”
“And this is what I will say, you can only scare the people who are not for you away.”
“ And I truly came to a place for the first time in my life, actually, in my 40s of loving my own company.”
My guest on the podcast this week is Cledra Gross.
Cledra is a Certified Life Coach and Business Strategist focused on helping Christian Women make more money and have a better life without compromising their values or health. She is the Author of Rewrite Your Story and Becoming a Successful Coach. Cledra has been featured on the life coach school podcast as an extraordinary scholar , awarded Coach of the year and was Atlantas top 10 over 40 for inspiring others to live their best life. Cledra is married to the love of her life Eddie Gross and loves to workout on her Peloton and play with her furbaby Frisco.
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Dating After Divorce on The Maisie Hill Experience
I had the pleasure of joining Maisie Hill to talk about how those socialized as women are programmed to believe that our value lies in our usefulness to others. It’s a narrative that we internalise and believe. But maintaining this perspective throughout our lives can cause problems, especially when it comes to dating, divorce and relationships.
Enjoy our conversation on Maisie’s podcast: https://www.maisiehill.com/podcast/dating-after-divorce-sade-curry
9/11, Autism, Divorce and Finding True Love with Maisie Hill
“I just chose to see things through a different lens and ignore a sense of knowing within me.”
“Often what I was doing in relationships was over functioning, which for me is like, I'm heaving them over the wall, whether they've said they want to go over or not…And I think that's part of why my current relationship is so successful is because I don't do that.”
“Part of what's made our relationship so successful is we really respect each other a lot.”
“There was a period of time where I felt some kind of discomfort with the idea that a second marriage was ending. So I stayed.”
My guest on the podcast this week is Maisie Hill
Maisie Hill is a master certified life coach, menstrual health expert, and bestselling author of Period Power and Perimenopause Power. Maisie uses mindset coaching and awareness of the body's rhythms and responses to help her clients to create the life they want.
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How to Achieve Any Goal
If you're listening to this episode on the 25th of January, 2023, you can still register for the remaining 2 days of the workshop on the 25th and 26th January at 7pm CST. Click here to register now.
Day 1 was amazing!
We deep dived into how to create your extraordinary life after divorce by achieving absolutely any goal.
If you have dreams and ideas that are sitting on the shelf, this replay is a must.
Truth Bombs...
How setting big goals and learning to achieve them will accelerate your healing journey
How rich people think about money that keeps them making more
A new way of taking massive action
The 3 things that have kept you from achieving your goals so far.
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Become Your Own Matchmaker
“Your emotional state, your confidence, these have a lot more to do with your ability to succeed when dating, than which app that you're on, or the texts that you send, or…whatever strategy or where you go.”
“Your energy actually dictates your ability to be creative.”
“If you shift into the energy of being your own matchmaker, that can help you get out of the venting, whining, crying, lamenting, complaining energy that sometimes we slip into.”
“There's so much that opens up when our brain shifts into creativity.”
What if you saw yourself as your own matchmaker? On this episode of the podcast, I talk about how you can become your own matchmaker by shifting your energy into creative mode so that you can find the right partner for you.
Click here to register for my FREE Day 3-day workshop, How to Create an Extraordinary Life and Love After Divorce on January 24 - 26 at 7pm CST
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4 Things I Did Differently For a Successful Dating Journey
“It was almost like I gave my power away. I assumed that if I liked him, he should like me back. And if he didn't like me back, I was the one who was doing something wrong.”
“I learned to become a really, really authentic version of myself. Now, the way you do that isn't by looking outside of yourself. It's by looking inward.”
“If your profile can be superimposed with another woman, then it's not authentic enough.”
“Our brains are designed to keep us doing the least… it is a feature of the brain to keep you conserving calories, staying in your comfort zone doing what's familiar.
I’m spending the early part of January 2023 vacationing in Miami with my husband. I’m thinking, reflecting, enjoying the sunshine, and feeling so blessed. Part of my reflections are on the early stages of my dating after divorce journey, the challenges I faced and the things I had to do differently that led to me meeting my husband. On this episode of the podcast, I talk about some of the things I did differently for a successful dating journey.
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From Messy to Married with Kimberly Jarman
“Because I kept trying to switch circumstances…like moving states, changing jobs…And I kept revisiting the same feelings of…I'm not satisfied…I'm not happy…there has to be more to life than this.”
“I won't take the credit of being courageous and leaving the marriage. My subconscious self decided to burn my life down to get me out of it.”
“If we don't have compassion for ourselves, then we can't have compassion for others.”
“I chose and I changed my thoughts. Yeah, that's all I did….I am desirable, new perspective. And then I started looking for evidence to validate those new beliefs.”
My guest on the podcast this week is Kimberly Jarman.
Kimberly Jarman is a Mindset Coach for women who are struggling to live out their purpose because they don’t feel important and confident enough to.
After years of feeling stuck, unsatisfied, and unhappy, from a place of desperation she burned down her life, took responsibility for her own happiness and success, and went on a mission to create the life she deeply wanted. One filled with love, financial freedom, time freedom, and happiness.
Her mission today is to help women become empowered in their lives so they can live their soul's purpose. Helping them create lives that are filled with meaning, healthy relationships, and time and financial freedom.
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NUANCES IN MOTHERHOOD AND THOUGHT WORK: A CONVERSATION WITH SADE CURRY, CANDICE TOONE, AND KAREN ANDERSON
NUANCES IN MOTHERHOOD AND THOUGHT WORK: A CONVERSATION WITH SADE CURRY, CANDICE TOONE, AND KAREN ANDERSON
Becoming a Certified Feminist Coach is one of my 2022 “I DID THAT!” things. This work has 10x-ed my coaching ability in just a few months. It’s easy to be blissfully unaware of the undercurrents that make life challenging and painful for women. And @kara lowentheil’s work breaks that silence wide open.
In this podcast episode Kara Leowentheil, fellow feminist coaches Candice Toone, Karen Anderson, and myself sat down to have a conversation about how unexamined belief systems impact our mother-daughter relationships, and how we are navigating, healing and growing by intentionally choosing how we think about motherhood.
Nurturing Intimacy Recap Episode with Melissa Cameron
“I had a few underlying feelings, but I didn't have a vision, so to speak, until you took me through the Irresistible You Worksheets. That was the point that I got a clear vision of what my relationship could look like.”
“I'm feeling really good about the place that we got to…I'm 43 and I've met the man of my dreams, so possible.”
“So I was in a place where I was very clear about what I was looking for.”
If you have been my longtime listeners might remember my client, Melissa Cameron, and her success story which was published on the podcast.
Today, I did a check in with Melissa, a year after she met her new partner to talk about where she was, and to recap, the best parts of the work that we did together. I hope you enjoy this short recap episode with Melissa Cameron.
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Understanding Chemistry and Attraction
“And our brains always feel like things that are out of reach are valuable or more valuable."
“Attraction is not a one and done. It’s a journey. It's a learning process.”
“The elements of attraction work both to create attraction with the right person. And they can also create attraction with the wrong person. And so when you are thinking that you don't feel the spark, that's not enough to make a decision.”
What sparks attraction for you? Have you ever sat down to think about it? Today I deal with the topic of chemistry and attraction. I address the multidimensional nature of attraction to help you understand what you are truly attracted to.
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Heal Old Relationship Patterns So You Can Fall in Love Again
“When a woman over functions in relationships, typically it looks like doing everything for the guy…you set up all the dates, you move the relationship forward, you have all the conversations, you text him in, you give him money, he's always needing something, and you're always there to give it to him.”
“Most men are just normal humans like you. And they're not going to look like a movie.”
“When you believe that other people know better, and your thinking is not to be trusted, you'll be easily manipulated”
“Another thing that can really hamper awareness is if you deny that the pattern is harming you”
Today’s episode is the webinar session that I held on the 2nd of December. The webinar was on how to heal your old relationship patterns, so you can fall in love again. It was an amazing session that I’m sure you’ll find very insightful.
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Empowering Yourself to Create Love
“When you think it's not going to work, you feel sad, you feel bad…that creates apathy, and a loss of motivation.”
“You can learn how to shift your thinking because your brain is just a self fulfilling prophecy machine.”
“You could choose to believe that you deserve an amazing love.”
“Discouragement is just a lie that your brain is telling you to trick you into staying in the comfort zone to trick you into not doing anything unfamiliar, anything scary, anything risky.”
“Empowerment is also available, you could redirect your brain to choose thoughts that empower you, that get you on board with actively creating the result of an amazing, extraordinary, nourishing, loving, new relationship after your divorce.”
In this episode, I share a small snippet from a coaching session that I had with a client this week that really encapsulated what I see many people go through when they're dating. And that’s when you are recycling thoughts that create discouragement and disappointment when you're dating.
Join me as I talk about how you can empower yourself to create love.
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Your Dating Mindset Is Critical
“You can read all the books and you can have the step by step and you can know exactly what to do, but if your mindset is working against you like there's really nothing that's going to happen, the journey will be painful and you'll probably give up along the way.”
“ And if you let the things that happen along the way determine what you believe is possible for you, you're going to create that.”
“What you never want to do is interpret any situation when you are dating as meaning that you are less than worthy, that you are less than capable, that there's something wrong with you.”
“You want to create love from a place of loving the path to love.”
Today, I talk about how critical it is for you to be very aware of your dating mindset, understanding the role that your mindset plays in your dating journey.
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Overcoming Dating Anxiety
“Fear is a normal part of the human experience, you're not going to get away from fear and you don't want to get away from fear. You don't want to not feel fear, fearactually keeps you safe.”
“Dating and anxiety and the fear response does not have to stop you.”
“Often we are jumping out into experiences outside of ourselves, into other people's experiences, into things people say, versus understanding who we are and how we are responding so that we can work with ourselves to create the life that we want.”
“Sometimes for some of us that response is coming from developmental milestones that we didn't complete when we were young.”
Every time I'm working with women, the subject of dating anxiety comes up one way or another and this is because fear is normal.
On today’s episode, I talk about anxiety in the dating process and why you may be feeling that way.
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Too Picky or Not Picky Enough?
“What many don't realize is that…our brains are designed for a completely different purpose. Your brain is not designed to help you find love. Your brain is not designed to help you find that higher level partner. Your brain is designed to keep you safe.”
“When you slow down and work through this process, you will realize just how frequently your brain tells you a story about what you were looking at, and tells you and you make decisions based on what you think is true. But literally your brain just made it up. It literally just made it up”
“Now, the other thing the brain does is once you have gone on a first date with someone, your brain will not be picky enough.“
“The ability to meet your partner really requires doing the most effective things at the right time. And you need to know what those are.”
I am so delighted to be back doing teaching episodes! I’ll be bringing more of these between now and the end of the year and I'm really excited to bring a lot of thoughts and learnings that I've had, getting my clients over the hump with their dating journeys, and into relationships where they feel safe, loved, nurtured, getting them all the way to commitment.
In today's episode, I dive into the almost age old question of “Are too picky or not picky enough?”
Don’t forget to register for my FREE Webinar coming up this December 2nd, 2022 from 6pm-7:30pm Central Time, where I’ll be talking about Healing Old Relationship Patterns that Keep You from Finding Love After Divorce.
If you want to start making serious progress in your dating journey TODAY, get my free Dating After Divorce course and workbook. Click here to sign up!
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Why Dating Feels Terrible and What You Can Do About It
“Romantic love is still tainted by internalized sexist narratives and biases, and they continue to be expressed in society and continue to be reinforced.”
“I think it's almost safe to say that all of us in some way, have internalized these sexist biases, because they're just in the air that we breathe.”
“The historical narrative is that a woman's value lies in her usefulness to other people.”
“Now, the internal bias that we start to internalize is that when we're single, that means there's something wrong with us.”
“Today, women continue to be portrayed as sexual objects in movies and music and entertainment, in the cultural language.”
Today, I have a special pre-recorded episode for you. It is my final project presentation for my advanced coaching certification in feminist coaching. I took the certification program so that I could understand deeper if there were cultural factors that were impacting my clients and yes, there were. In this presentation, I identified eight thinking patterns that are culturally accepted, but that can create a lot of pain in the dating journey. I titled this presentation, “Why Dating Feels Terrible and What You Can Do About It.”
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