Scarcity Thoughts About Dating
A huge obstacle to dating isn’t what you have to do to date, it’s the scarcity narrative built into your dating story.
It feels like truth deep in your bones that your type of man is one in a million.
And if he did exist, he would be married already.
And if he were single, he might not want you because he could have anyone.
And he wouldn’t be on the apps because your best friend got the “last good man online.”
These scarcity stories are the real cause of you not meeting the type of man you’re looking for.
When you believe he doesn’t exist, you won’t get started dating - effectively preventing yourself from ever connecting with your man.
If you do start dating, you’ll tolerate the bare minimum guy who texts you daily, but doesn’t show up because “something is better than nothing.”
Dating feels like an exhausting high-stakes manhunt for “a needle in a haystack” instead of a straightforward task that you handle like a grownup.
The scarcity stories around dating have been built into our cultures from time immemorial.
If a woman didn’t get chosen by a man, there were dire financial and social consequences for her and her family.
These stories are outdated, but they continue in the ways we talk about dating today.
And we believe them because we’ve been programmed with them since we were babies.
When you work with me, we question everything you’ve ever believed about dating, relationships and marriage.
Your old beliefs got you into unhealthy marriage and divorce.
Chances are scarcity around relationships kept you in the marriage longer that you should have stayed.
Those beliefs aren’t helpful when choosing a new partner.
And they impact your results more than you might think.
We figure out which beliefs you have that are holding you back - they’re not the same for every woman.
We figure out how they are impacting your journey and change them into beliefs that accelerate you meeting your partner instead.
Then we layer your dating strategy over this new, powerful mindset.
It gets easy to take action, show up and connect with your soulmate when scarcity isn’t keeping you stuck.
Schedule a consult call with me to figure it out.