Will Meeting Your Partner Ever Happen? The Odds Are In Your Favor

Dating after divorce can feel overwhelming, especially for women over 40 who are navigating a completely different dating landscape than they remember. If you're wondering when you're ready to date again and worry that finding a quality partner (not a low-effort man) seems impossible, let me reassure you - the odds are actually in your favor.

Why Your Brain Tries to Predict Failure

When you worry that meeting your partner will never happen, it's because you're only using your past experience as the indicator of what your future looks like. Your brain likes certainty, even when it has no idea what it's talking about.

Think of your brain as a con man talking about "a sure thing." It pretends to know the future, but it doesn't. Not even close.

The Real Dating Odds for Divorced Women

If you have some belief in the possibility of finding love again, you might think there's a 50-50 or 40-60 chance it'll happen in the next year. But that's just your brain pretending to know again.

Here's what actually increases your odds substantially:

  • Being active on dating apps

  • Improving your skills using these platforms

  • Asking meaningful dating questions to determine compatibility

  • Troubleshooting the process when challenges arise

  • Working through the initial awkwardness

  • Putting yourself out there consistently

  • Attending events and having conversations

  • Healing from past relationship wounds

  • Creating a more powerful mindset

  • Going on 2-3 quality dates each week

With this approach, your odds of finding love shoot right up to 80%, 90%, even 95%!

Your Past Doesn't Predict Your Future

Your past experience was never an indicator that you would ever do anything new:

  • Ride a bike

  • Get married the first time

  • Buy a home

  • Kiss someone

  • Get on a plane

You've done a million things you'd never done before. You're going to do a million more. You absolutely can meet your second (or third!) soulmate.

The fact that you haven't met him yet means nothing about your chances of meeting him in the future. Keep going.

Ready to Transform Your Dating Life?

Spots are available to work with me one-on-one or in my group program to accelerate your journey to meet the one.

Belief is one of the pillars we work on to get your mind where it needs to be to succeed at dating. We'll uncover the limiting beliefs under the surface and bring them to light with compassion.

Together, we'll shift these beliefs and find solid evidence that you too can have the relationship you want. You'll release the impatience, disappointment, and dating fatigue, shifting into energized calm as you realize that you are 100% capable of finding love after divorce.

When asking yourself "When am I ready to date?", remember that readiness isn't just about time—it's about mindset. And that's exactly what we'll help you develop.

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