Dating After Divorce: 5 Ways You Disconnect from Your Intuition

Every one of us has a powerful inner wisdom that becomes even more apparent after divorce. That sure knowledge that our inner voice knows what's good for us is one of the most valuable takeaways from ending a marriage.

So what's the problem? Not listening to that inner wisdom.

That's why many of us got into that first marriage, and why we're tempted to ignore our intuition again when we start dating after divorce. We're simply not willing to remain divorced, single, and looking because society has conditioned us to believe there's something wrong with this status—like we've somehow failed at life and everyone is pointing at us.

How Self-Doubt Hijacks Your Dating Journey

This negative interpretation of being divorced sends you into a fight/flight/fawn/freeze response. When you believe you're not lovable or acceptable as you are, or somehow less worthy because you're currently single, your lower brain goes into panic mode. It will do whatever necessary to achieve the goal of changing your status from single to coupled—including ignoring the voice that's telling you to slow down when dating.

Once your lower brain is on this life-saving mission, it becomes unwilling to see the red flags in anyone who appears to be the solution to your "single problem." When your inner wisdom pops up with signs and signals to guide your dating journey, your lower brain will shut it down because it interprets everything as evidence that you won't find love and will be left shamed and rejected to die alone.

5 Ways Your Brain Sabotages Your Dating Wisdom

Your lower brain tries to "protect" you from this perceived threat by:

1. Ignoring the signs when a date displays concerning behavior

2. Explaining away problematic actions from a low-effort man

3. Lowering your relationship standards to accommodate potential partners

4. Trying to change your partner by "asking for what you want" instead of finding someone aligned with your needs

5. Postponing breaking up to avoid the pain of heartbreak, even when dating questions to ask yourself point toward incompatibility

All of this happens because you're believing the panic story instead of trusting your inner wisdom about when you are ready to date again.

What Your Inner Wisdom Knows About Dating After Divorce

Your inner wisdom knows powerful truths:

• Your person is out there and would never present these red flags in your relationship

• There are 7 billion people on the planet and no shortage of healthy partners

• You've survived divorce and now possess the resilience and inner strength to handle whatever comes up with a breakup

• You are worthy and deserving of being loved and cared for at the highest level

I teach my clients to date from their inner wisdom. They learn to turn the voice of their intuition way up high—it's the voice that helps them make the best decision when a red flag presents itself and reminds them their extraordinary relationship is inevitable.

This inner guidance fuels belief in themselves and their ability to create love. They practice letting go of the thoughts that create self-doubt and live from their inner rock of resourcefulness, resilience, and confidence. They approach every date with a sense of calm abundance, not the pressure to please or settle for a low-effort man.

When you're truly ready to date after divorce, your intuition becomes your most reliable guide to finding the love you deserve.

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