Dating Intention
The exhaustion of the dating roller coaster is caused by not having a solid, clear intention for your dating journey.
When you don’t know what you’re looking for, it’s really hard to find it.
So own what you want and go straight for it.
It sounds simple, but your brain’s habit of catastrophic thinking will create a bunch of drama around it:
The fear of limiting options while also worrying about settling for too little
Past disappointments make the act of asking feel like death to any desire
Being shamed for turning down a “good guy” way back in high school
Waiting to be chosen instead of having a say and choosing what you want
Worrying what others will think of your choices
“It’s wrong to ask for this much”
“This list is too long”
“Am I being too picky?”
“Does this guy on my list even exist?”
“If he exists, would he want me?”
“It’s unrealistic to expect a man this good” (even though you check off all the same attributes)
“Where would I even find him?”
“My mother, father, friends, internet guru said…”
And on and on. These thoughts and limiting beliefs bury your inner wisdom about what you want in your life - what would be a true relationship fit.
Without a clear intention, every new interaction with a man becomes a guessing game...
Should I or should I not?
The solution is to give yourself permission to verbalize your true desire.
Spend time clarifying it in detail before putting yourself out there.
Deep dive into it until you have an intention and vision so clear, solid and so bright that it puts an end to the dating roller coaster.
You become unshakeable in your certainty that you know what you are looking for and why and you know exactly if the man in front of you fits the bill or not.
You free your brain from obsessively spinning around and around over one guy or the other and use that time and creativity to fill your dating calendar while continuing to be productively living your best life.
Sounds a lot more fun doesn’t it?
Intention is one of the 3 pillars of my Dating After Divorce coaching process
The clarity we create gives you the confidence to show up fully when you date
And ends all confusion and indecision
The exhaustion from second-guessing ends forever
Dating becomes a breeze
You start having fun and…
Finding Mr. Right becomes inevitable
Contact me here to get started: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment