Do you love your single life or are you just avoiding growth?

I once had a conversation with a divorced lady in a travel group who said she had zero desire to get married again

I totally believed her

Her zest for life was evident

She was growing and changing and doing EVERYTHING else she wanted to do

She had traveled solo to many countries

She was doing work she loved

She was enjoying vibrant relationships and feeling fully alive

This is very different from staying single because it’s easier

The fear of intimacy after divorce is a very real issue

When you've been hurt that deeply, the last thing you want is to get hurt again

So you find ways to keep your distance from the risk of making a commitment 

You settle for basic romantic relationships with non-committal partners

Someone to fill the space, knowing you won’t ever have to sign the dotted line

Long-distance relationships with no plans to move closer

You dabble half-heartedly off and on the apps

Just something to entertain yourself and pass time with a few text conversations

This way, you never have to address just how stuck you still are in past hurts

If things don’t work out, it’s because of all the weirdos out there

You get busy with keeping life comfortable and safe

Every time the desire for more comes up, you squelch it

And over time that squelching muscle becomes a habit

Because you've given your brain so much power to suppress your desires for a relationship

It soon starts to suppress your desire to make more money

It suppresses your desire to write a book, run a business, travel, make an impact

It makes everything about dating appear excessively difficult

Swiping your finger 2 inches on your phone feels as exhausting as hauling bricks

You tell yourself you’re busy with the kids and work and all the other busy things 

But you still spend hours ruminating, overthinking the little things, doing busywork, scrolling social media, watching videos, worrying, venting and complaining

Doing everything other than what you REALLY want to do with your life

You don't use the time to create a new relationship but you don’t use it for something else just as awesome

Listen, creating a relationship is just a container for personal growth

A vehicle for bringing up all the junk and getting it out of the way so that you show up to engage and enjoy the very best life has to offer

The process stretches and grows you and makes you come alive in amazing new ways

Just like traveling the world did for the lady in my group

It’s time to get off the sidelines and get in the game of life

So, do you love your single life or are you just avoiding growth?

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