Daydreaming vs Living

DAYDREAMING IS KEEPING YOU FROM TRUE LOVE

Were you a kid who daydreamed?

Spending hours looking out the window and creating stories in your head?

It’s the mark of the imaginative, creative person.

Your brain is capable of sweeping you away into a whole new world, complete with images and the emotions that feel so real.

But dreaming, thinking about a relationship and creating a relationship are two different things.

You can experience a whole relationship without actually being in it…

Crushing on the handsome coworker.

Mentally conversing and laughing with the single dad down the street.

Walking down the aisle with the man who texts you a lovely good morning and goodnight.

But is never available to go out in person.

If you are not in each other’s lives in a real way, meeting up, engaging in deep, fun and difficult conversations.

Being checked out by each other’s friends.

Discussing the best time to meet the children.

Then you’re not in a relationship.

You’re in a daydream.

Lulled into the comfort zone of a fantasy.

Because your brain wants to keep you safe.

The comfort zone means no risk.

It’s familiar and warm.

You don’t have to grow or change.

You don’t have to invest time, effort or money on learning how to be bold when you interact with men.

A fantasy relationship is always perfect.

Nothing ever goes wrong, no mistakes are ever made, no conflicts have to be resolved.

No doing scary things like up leveling your network.

No fear of rejection.

It feels great until you remember you still don’t have your partner - that person who is there to hold you.

The flesh and blood person who books plane tickets and massages your neck.

Who takes out that trash and goes on long walks with you after work.

This requires ending the hope that the friendly co worker will one day wake up and ask you out.

And do the things that lead to love.

Get out and meet compatible men.

Engage and interact with them with ease and confidence.

Have conversations about a relationship fit.

Make real adult relationship decisions.

Because dating after divorce means you don’t have time to waste.

It’s time to meet that person who wants a true commitment, partnership and companionship for the rest of your life.

If you’re ready, I can help you make it happen.

Schedule your call with me here: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment

 

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