Dreaded Second Date

Dating after Divorce

You walk into the restaurant and your date is there

He checks all the major boxes BUT…

He’s dressed just a “teeny bit too casual” for your taste

You have good conversation, but he talks just a “teeny bit too much” about himself

He’s nice and respectful, but is just “teeny bit inattentive” to your experience

He answers your questions, but talks about his work and future in a way that wasn’t interesting to you

You have an okay time, but you were sort of bored, didn’t feel attracted and don’t really want to see him again

And then on the way out, he asks for a second date

Do You:

A: Feel unsure, hesitate and then say, “Yes” because you don’t want to be rude and don’t know what else to say? Then go home and second-guess yourself because he’s a nice guy and way better than all the other yahoos you’ve been swiping left on? Then you stew in self doubt while vacillating between the decision to cancel or not, but afraid of being mean and a called flake? Then you decided to go on the date only to confirm yet again that you didn’t want to be there?

Or

B: Feel unsure and say, “I’m not sure. Is it okay if I think about it and let you know tomorrow?” Go home, connect with yourself and then send a text declining the second date?

Or 

C: Connect with how you really feel and say, Thank you for spending time with me today, but no, thank you.

Which one are you? Let me know in the comments.

And if you’d like to go from an A to a B or C, book a call with me here: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment

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