Looking for Love in all the Wrong Places
It’s true that a secret to dating success is that you need to take massive action, but this is only true to a certain point
There’s a caveat
Because I’ve talked to ladies who are frustrated because they’ve swiped, given chances, gone on every date
And come up empty-handed
You don’t really to go on 500+ dates to find the one
I went on less that 20 first dates over the course of 18 months before I met the One
This does not mean to imply that going on 600 dates is wrong
Action is essential, but you need to take the right kind of action
You have put yourself out there, but you need to do it in the right places
Dating all the men in the wrong rooms will waste your time and energy
This is a critical mindset for divorced women who don’t have huge swaths of time to spend dating
We are raising children, staying healthy, working full time and building side hustles
I had all of these going when I was dating
I couldn’t be out every night of the week with another “I’ll give him a chance” randomite from the apps
Dating in the wrong spaces will get you nowhere
Your plan for connecting with your person needs a strong WHY, a clear WHO and an effective WHERE
Last week I gave away my list of 101 Places to meet potential partners. This is list a baby step for my ladies who have not gotten started putting themselves out there
When you haven’t done any dating at all, you just need to get out there - it really doesn’t matter where
For those who aren’t getting the results you want, the next level is when you know exactly where to go to meet the specific type of partner you are looking for
My husband would not be found on the driving range, or fishing club or paragliding meetup
(Fun story, I went on a few dates with a guy who was into this. It was a no for me)
My person is a book-signing, art museum, writer’s conference type
I knew this before I met him
I deep dived enough to be clear on who he was
My profile and adventures on my journey reflected that this was who I was looking for
I walk every client of my through my tools that help them define where to look for THEIR person
She combines WHO she is looking for with WHERE he can be found
So that when she’s taking massive action, it’s super-targeted and doesn’t take forever for them to connect
So she finds the one in less than 50 dates instead of 500 by looking for him in all the right places
While giving appropriate attention to her career and kids while achieving her goal of getting remarried
If this sounds like what you are looking for, schedule a consult call with me: http://Sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment