So there’s the man you met and you thought, “maybe we could have something together”
He was in your network and seemed super-compatible
You figured out ways to run into him and strike up conversations, but nothing happened
He was super friendly, but never wanted to move the relationship forward
But you kept waiting around for something to spark up, as months and maybe years have rolled by
The reason you’re doing this is because you have a scarcity mindset about finding a good man.
This man has attributes that you mistakenly believe you won’t find anywhere else - “he’s got to be the one!”
And then you start to see the “signs” that he’s the one:
You have kids the same age
You both had the same college major
Plus, if you could just get him to ask you out, your life would be so much easier
You wouldn’t have to put yourself out there and do the work to meet someone - especially if you believe there’s no one out there for you
The belief that there’s no one out there for you keeps you circling and fantasizing about a man who will never ask you out
Keeping you from doing the work of finding the men who are out there for you
The desire to stay in your comfort zone, has you settling in your mind for a man who is emotionally unavailable to you, who isn’t wild about you, who doesn’t think you’re the best thing since the iphone
You’re dreaming about a relationship with him because you’re not in touch with your true needs, you think it’s okay for your person to be lukewarm about you and you’re ready to hustle for his love
Reversing this type of thinking means reclaiming a deep sense of your own worthiness, lovability and preciousness
Until you feel deep down in your soul that you are 100% worthy of having a relationship that nourishes your soul, not one that has you hustling for crumbs
This is what coaching with me is all about.
I can teach you the mechanics of dating in a few hours
The real work in on your mind - the way you see yourself, past relationships patterns, insecurities and worries that have you overthinking and stressing about 99,000 imaginary dating scenarios
When your thinking changes, you will have no qualms about saying no to a less than stellar relationship
The same way you would never consider handing your kid over to a stranger because of how precious they are, you will be so fully aware of your own value and the preciousness of your life and future that you won't consider tolerating a low caliber guy
When your thinking changes, you’ll effortlessly step into the spaces where you will connect with the man who’s right for you
Your man-picker gets reset
You’ll stop wasting weeks on end hoping and waiting to see if a man will finally show up for you
Being treated well becomes your new normal, not a luxury
And if he doesn’t show up, you won’t crumble with rejection or take it personally, you’ll know that his behavior was about him, not about you
And you’ll confidently move on to the next
Changing your scarcity thinking makes dating a fun ride, you’ll generate the momentum that gets you to your soulmate partner in a short amount of time
Yes, growing yourself is harder work than waiting around to get picked, but growth is how you make a true dream relationship happen
If this is work you are ready to do, click here to get started.