I have had hundreds of conversations with women whose confidence has been shaken by relationship trauma
When you are exceptional, talented and resourceful it can be a shock to your system when you find yourself in a relationship that makes you question everything about your world
They know how to get things done, you check all the boxes, some might say you had a type A personality
But underlying it all is a nagging voice that never seems to go away
It’s like a low hum, always under the surface of the outward high-functioning optimism
The voice assures you that things are fine just as they are:
“I don’t need a relationship”
“I’ll get to it someday”
“When X happens, then I can take the chance”
And so time drags on
The voice paints you as a problem that will never be solved:
“You’re too old, too tired, too busy, too bossy, you have issues, what’s wrong with you?”
So you go on a lifelong quest to fix yourself, but there’s always something to fix
The voice questions your moves - Am I doing right? Am I good enough? Will I ever be loved and accepted?
It causes you to hesitate before taking a step
Sometimes that hesitation gets drawn out into years of indecision
Secret dreams that don’t come to light
Projects gathering dust in your notebooks and journals
Courses purchased but never completed
Unread books sitting on the shelf
Promotions not applied for
Friendships not pursued
What if the voice is the problem that needs fixing, not you?
What if you could step back from the voice and realize it’s not real?
It’s just a channel on the radio of your mind and you have the power to change it
How different would life be if you could quieten that unending stream of worry and negativity?
If you could have a flow of peaceful, inspiring, joyful and empowering thoughts instead?
Then you could step out from inspiration and power, not dread and fear of getting it wrong
Then you could have a stream of peace and confidence
You could enjoy your successes instead of tearing them down
Healing the negative “Inner Critic” voice is a key component of transforming any part of your life: relationships, career, finances and even health
When you turn a negative voice on yourself, it poisons the well you expect love to flow from, it keeps you from taking risks and going to the next level at work, it keeps you spending money to distract yourself, wasting hours scrolling social media and eating emotionally to comfort your soul.
One key sign that you have this issue is that you cannot abide silence or simply being with yourself - you always have a TV show, song, sermon, podcast or audiobook playing whenever you are alone. You need the white noise to drown out and keep you from being overwhelmed by the inner critic.
If you want help to turn this voice off and get to enjoy peace, productivity and creativity at the highest level, I can help.
A key part of helping you rebuild your life after a difficult relationship is dealing with this voice
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