How to Date Even When You Don’t Know Where to Start

You're lying in bed scrolling Instagram, watching your married friends post anniversary photos. There's another wedding announcement in your feed - the fourth one this month. You feel that familiar mix of longing and dread, then immediately the paralyzing thought: "I should probably download a dating app, but what if I mess it up?"

So you close Instagram, tell yourself you'll "figure it out tomorrow," and wonder why dating feels harder than running your entire business.

What's really happening is you've created a comfort zone of avoidance. You're treating dating apps like some mysterious, high-stakes game where one wrong swipe could ruin everything forever.

But here's what you might not realize: every day you postpone taking control of your dating life, you're reinforcing the same passive patterns that got you here. You're staying stuck in the old story of "whoever chooses me" instead of stepping into the power of "I get to choose."

This is costing you more than you think. You're missing opportunities to practice discernment. You're avoiding building the confidence that comes from making your own choices. You're letting fear convince you that judging compatibility from photos and profiles is somehow more shallow than letting random circumstances decide your love life.

What this looks like is endlessly researching "the best dating app" without downloading any. Making elaborate plans to "work on yourself first" before putting yourself out there. Convincing yourself that your person will just magically appear at the grocery store while you avoid the places where single people actually meet.

In my one-on-one coaching program, I teach you my "CEO Dating Strategy." It's inspired by how to run a business - with intention, standards, and systematic decision-making.

When you catch yourself saying "I don't know how to do this," it won’t stop you anymore because working with me gives you the self-trust and the skills so that you do know how to do it.

You will shift from "dating is scary and confusing" to "dating is just another skill I’ve mastered." 

Instead of "what if I choose wrong" you get to think "I know how to t make intentional dating choices."

My coaching is designed to make it easy to trust your instincts. When you see someone's profile, you won't second-guess yourself into paralysis. 

When you match with someone, you know exactly how to start a conversation that reveals what you actually want to know. 

When you go on a date, you’ll know how to evaluate compatibility without wasting time.

The transformation happens when you realize that choosing someone is no scarier than choosing a business partner, a friend, or even a restaurant. 

You already have excellent judgment - now you get to apply it to dating with the same confidence you bring to everything else in your life.

If you're ready to stop letting dating apps intimidate you and start approaching love with the same intentionality you bring to your business, I can help. 

Click here to book a consultation call and let's create a strategy for becoming the CEO of your love life, starting with mastering the tools that actually work.