224. Dating, Shame and Self-Compassion
In this episode, I dive deep into a breakthrough moment from our recent Dating After Divorce Collective coaching call. Here's what we unpack:
Key Insights:
Why shame triggers show up in your dating journey and how societal narratives impact your dating confidence
The real reason dating feels hard (hint: it's not because "all the good ones are taken")
How fear of wasting time leads to either dismissing potential partners too quickly or staying too long with the wrong ones
Why perfectionism and the need to "get it right" keeps you stuck
Personal Growth Takeaways:
Recognize that everyone is "winging it" - even those who seem to have it all figured out
Transform your relationship with making mistakes in dating
Build unshakeable self-compassion as your foundation for dating success
Practical Dating Tips:
Release the pressure to make perfect decisions
Give yourself permission to be in the learning process
Own your dating choices without defaulting to blaming others
223. 7 Steps to Reinvent Your Dating Life
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Tired of dating feeling like Groundhog Day? In today's episode I share the proven framework that helps my clients break free from dating frustration and create real results. If you've hit a wall with dating apps, feel stuck in negative patterns, or wonder why nothing seems to work - this episode is for you.
Episode Highlights:
🔍 Why traditional dating advice fails divorced women
The trap of jumping on and off dating apps without a strategy
How "putting yourself out there" without skills leads to disappointment
The real reason why having 100+ first dates might not lead to finding your person
The fairytale vs. reality mindset shift that changes everything
Why treating dating like a growth project (not a shopping trip) creates success
How one client found love by committing to 2 parties per week for 5 weeks
Ready to Reinvent Your Dating Life?
Stop hoping things will magically change and start creating real transformation. I walk my Dating After Divorce Academy clients through this exact framework, providing support and accountability every step of the way.
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Remember: A reinvention isn't about small tweaks - it's about creating a radical shift in how you approach dating and relationships. Let me help you make that shift.
222. Fight For the Relationship You Want
Let's talk about a pattern I see in many divorced women - the reluctance to fight for the relationship they want. Through the lens of "learned helplessness," I explore why capable, strong women who fought for their first marriages often hold back in their post-divorce dating journey.
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Key Insights:
The difference between fighting for a specific person versus fighting for your desired relationship outcome
How past relationship trauma creates false beliefs about our dating options
Why validating dating struggles with friends can keep you stuck
The truth about effort: dating takes more work than we expect (just like everything worthwhile)
Ask yourself: "Why am I not fighting for this relationship goal with the same determination I bring to other areas of my life?" Your answer reveals where to focus your energy.
Book Reference: "Learned Optimism" by Martin Seligman - A foundational text for understanding how we can break free from learned helplessness patterns
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221. Are You Wasting Your Time With Dating?
Let’s our complex relationship with time in dating after divorce, challenging the common belief that dating is a "waste of time." As part of my three-episode series about time, we examine how this mindset affects your dating journey and what to do about it.
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Key Concepts Explored:
What Actually Wastes Time in Dating:
- Dating without a strong "why" or due to external pressure
- Pursuing someone who clearly stated they don't want what you want
- Trying to convince uninterested people to date you
- Fantasy relationships and passive dating
- Repeating the same dating patterns without learning or growth
Common Questions Addressed:
- What if I'm truly too busy to date?
- How do I know if I'm investing time wisely in dating?
- When is it okay to stop seeing someone to "save time"?
- How can I date efficiently without compromising on what matters?
- What's the difference between being selective and over-filtering?
220. I Don't Want to Date an Older / Younger Man
Are you ready to date again but finding yourself stuck in rigid age filters and preconceptions?
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In this enlightening episode, we tackle the complex emotions and unconscious biases that may be holding you back from meaningful relationships. Whether you're newly divorced or have been in the dating scene for a while, discover why expanding your dating mindset - not your settling point - could be the key to finding authentic connection.
Our discussion delves deep into why many divorced women limit their dating prospects based on age alone, and how this well-intentioned self-protection might actually be sabotaging their chances for a fulfilling relationship. Learn practical strategies for approaching online dating with confidence, setting healthy boundaries without building walls, and making empowered choices in your relationship journey.
This episode offers transformative insights on:
Moving past the "nurse with a purse" fear that keeps many divorced women from considering certain age ranges
Understanding the difference between having standards and creating arbitrary rules in online dating
Developing genuine confidence in your ability to choose well, rather than trying to pre-filter every possibility
Creating an authentic approach to dating that honors both your desires and your ability to make wise choices
Whether you're struggling with dating app fatigue, questioning your age preferences, or simply ready for a more intentional approach to finding love after divorce, this episode provides the guidance and perspective you need to move forward with confidence.
Perfect for anyone navigating relationships post-divorce, ready to date again, or seeking to build a meaningful connection in today's dating landscape. Get ready to challenge your assumptions and open yourself to new possibilities in love and partnership.
Dating After Divorce Episode 219: All the Men Want Younger Women
Is your age holding you back in dating? I hear this concern from so many women in our community. Today, let's unpack what's really going on when we let age become a barrier to love.
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Key Insights:
Age anxiety peaks when dating because we've internalized limiting societal messages about women and aging
These beliefs impact not just how we date, but how boldly we live our entire lives
Your age is just a number - what matters is the life you choose to live at any age
Here's the truth: The "age problem" in dating isn't about the number. It's about the stories we tell ourselves. I see clients in their 40s saying men their age are "too old," while my clients in their 50s and 60s express the same concern. What's fascinating? The issue isn't age - it's about energy alignment and lifestyle compatibility.
Ready to transform your approach to dating after divorce? Let's work together to move past age anxiety and create authentic connections. Schedule your consultation call at http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to explore private coaching or join our Dating After Divorce Collective.
Remember: The person who's right for you isn't looking for a number - they're looking for YOU.
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Next episode: We'll explore how age filters and preferences impact our dating choices - you won't want to miss it!
The Christian Divorce, Healing and Remarriage with Elisabeth Klein
My podcast guest storyteller today is the woman from whom I first learned that codependency was a thing. Elisabeth Klein has been a writer and mentor for Christian women for decades.
In this episode, Elisabeth shares her story of a 20-year marriage that ended in divorce due to hidden drinking, emotional abuse, controlling behavior, and lying.
Despite initially vowing to never remarry, Elisabeth's friends urged her otherwise and she met her second husband, Buzz on a dating app. They have now been married 9 years.
Featured on the Show:
Elisabeth Klein lives with her husband in Illinois. They are parents of nine and grandparents to four. She provides resources to women in difficult relationships and transition through her podcast, courses, books, blog, speaking events, webcasts, private Facebook groups and one-on-one coaching.
Connect with Elisabeth:
Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/elisabeth-klein
Website: https://elisabethklein.com/
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Loving Life and Finding Love After Divorce with Kelly Bonnano
Kelly Bonnano is a Wellness Coach and Life Coach for Divorced People. She shares her journey through the emotional and logistical turmoil of getting divorced after 26 years.
Kelly shares her experiences of starting over, dating post-divorce, and finding love again. Finally, we delve into the complex world of love, infatuation, and dating after divorce.
Kelly offers valuable insights on how to differentiate fleeting infatuation from enduring love, and the importance of a calm and logical approach to dating.
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Featured on the Show: Kelly Bonanno
Kelly Bonanno is a Wellness & Life Coach, speaker, mom to 2 teenage boys and creator of the Loving Life After Divorce Method. With over a decade as a wellness educator, she helps people navigate divorce with confidence and become the best versions of themselves inside and out. Whether they’ve lost themselves in their marriage, are fearful of the future, want to get in better shape or find lasting love, Kelly empowers them to move through the process with courage and powerfully transition to their new life. She also helps business owners retain employees, reduce sick days and burnout while increasing productivity, focus, and morale with her innovative wellness programs and workshops.
The Journey to True Self-Connection with Coco Madari
In this episode, Coco Madari talks about their history of navigating through relationships filled with control, abuse, and gaslighting, and how self-help and therapy became their lifeline in such circumstances.
This episode isn't just about relationships; it's about the high stakes that we invest in them, the addictive nature of these bonds, and how to handle them when they become overwhelming. Coco Madari shares their tale of self-doubt birthed from harmful romantic and familial relationships and we delve into the intricate human psyche, the havoc created by autopilot coping mechanisms, and the impact on highly sensitive individuals.
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Featured on the Show: Coco Madari
Coco Madari (they/them) is BIPOC queer multi-talented artist, performer, singer/songwriter, and double-certified coach who helps HSPs juggle multiple creative endeavours at once.
Centering Yourself in Your Dating and Relationships with Caitlin Liz Fisher
My guest on the podcast today is Caitlyn Liz Fisher, a creativity coach. She shares the story of her first two marriages - the first marked by imbalance and settling, the second by non-monogamy, gaslighting, and abuse.
Caitlyn's story is one of resilience, strength, and the power of self-love. She takes us through her inspiring transformation and how she moved from chaotic relationships to a healthy, loving bond with her current partner. Her "Yikes Rule", a gauge for determining the potential success of a relationship, is a fascinating take-away.
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Featured on the Show: Caitlin Liz Fisher
Caitlin Liz Fisher is an author and creativity coach who turned their gifted kid burnout into a way to help neurodivergent, disabled, and queer creatives get their passions back on the priority list. Every challenge they've overcome — abuse, parental estrangement, toxic jobs, and even crappy breakups — has helped them learn to say yes to their deep-down dreams and no to the status quo. They are now living their absolute weirdest, abnormal life and advocating for others to do the same by subverting capitalism and embracing a world where we can finally stop hustling.
T.H.R.I.V.E and Date with Purpose After Divorce with Tonya Carter
If you have ever found yourself questioning the societal framework of marriage and divorce or are curious about how to navigate the complex world of relationships post-divorce, you'll find this episode insightful. I'm joined on the Podcast by Tonya Carter, an accomplished marriage and relationship exit strategist. This episode shines a spotlight on mental and emotional resilience, recognizing it as the greatest challenge that accompanies this journey.
We take a look into the post-divorce dating world, where Tonya talks on using personal experiences and values to guide your choices. We also discuss the importance of taking a hiatus from dating, embracing singleness positively, and the imperative need for discernment and trust in oneself while navigating new relationships. Tonya also emphasizes the power of having clear criteria when entering into relationships.
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Featured on the Show: Tonya Carter
Tonya is a Marriage/Relationship Exit Strategist. She uses her knowledge, personal experience, and expertise to help women navigate through the process of uncoupling by providing support, advice, resources and tools that will help mitigate interruptions in their business, work performance and household obligations.
She’s the author of “Divorce Your Story: A Woman’s Guide to Heal & Thrive after Divorce” and she also facilitates her signature program “T.H.R.I.V.E” - a 12 week program to gain the strategies and tools to exit out of a relationship properly, heal intelligently, and enter & evolve into a life of freedom and fulfillment.
She also hosts a podcast called “ The Purposely Thriving Podcast” and she’s a graduate of DeVry & Central Michigan University.
She is from Atlanta where she resides with her two children.
Healing from Divorce through Decluttering with Amelia Pleasant Kennedy
If you have ever felt overwhelmed by a cluttered space, or judged yourself harshly for a lack of tidiness you'll find this episode insightful. I am joined by Amelia Pleasant Kennedy, a Certified Life Coach, Professional Organizer, Fair Play Facilitator, and the CEO of A Pleasant Solution.
Amelia shares insight on the complexities of detaching our thoughts from our physical spaces and discusses the significance of recognizing green flags and positive signs of progress in our productivity journey. We look into the emotional art of letting go, the profound process of reclaiming space in our homes and our minds.
You'll walk away from this episode with the confidence to create your roadmap to reclaim your space and inner peace.
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Featured on the Show: Amelia Pleasant Kennedy
Amelia Pleasant Kennedy is a Certified Life Coach, Professional Organizer, Fair Play Facilitator, and the CEO of A Pleasant Solution. As a Clutter Coach, she helps folks who are frazzled, busy, and overworked uncover the root cause of the clutter in their lives. With a keen ability to listen for what goes unsaid, Amelia coaches from a space of total curiosity and non-judgment so that clients build a deep sense of self-trust. Amelia is a caregiver for her mother, who’s living with dementia, a mother of 3 (including an elite athlete), a podcast host, and a lover of visual art, nature, books, and meaningful conversations.
Amelia is also the Chair of the Awards + Recognition Committee for the National Assoc. of Productivity & Organizing Professionals (NAPO). She holds Advanced Certification in Deep Dive Coaching and Feminist Coaching, and is an active member of the Institute for Challenging Disorganization (ICD), Black Girls Who Organize (BGWO), and the National Assoc. of Black Professional Organizers (NABPO). Her podcast A Pleasant Solution: Embracing an Organized Life talks about why a clutter-free mindset is essential to an aligned + sustainable lifestyle.
Accelerate Dating by Hacking Your Time with Vikki Louise Yaffe
Today, I am joined by a very special guest, Vikki Louise Yaffe, a feminist time coach.
If you have ever wondered how to redefine your relationship with time, not just in your day-to-day activities, but also in managing your relationships, you'll find this episode insightful as Vikki shares an intriguing perspective on time management and its impact on our lives. We delve deep into how to handle the challenge of accelerated decision-making in relationships, a concept that seeks to break free from the fear of failure and welcomes the potential for growth.
Finally, Vikki shares her personal story of dating without boundaries, an experiment that highlights the delicate balance between vulnerability and self-preservation. We discuss the paradox of barriers - the safety they offer and the opportunities they could potentially block. Join us in this enlightening conversation, whether you're trying to navigate a relationship, wrestling with time management, or simply interested in a fresh perspective.
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Featured on the Show: Vikki Louise Yaffe
Vikki is a Time & Productivity expert and the host of the Hack Your Time podcast. She calls herself a reformed hustler and used to work 80 hours weeks, doing all things.
Now Vikki works 15 hours, achieves more, earns more, and helps other people do the same through her signature program, Time Hackers.
In Time Hackers, busy overachievers learn to achieve more in less time, with ease. Time Hackers accelerate into their future by doing less today.
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Bending Time & Space Podcast Conversation with Vikki Louise and Sade Curry
Dating After Divorce with Sade Curry - Rising Strong for Post Divorced Women Podcast
This was such a fun divorce / dating conversation with Ingrid Lockwood on her podcast, Rising Strong for Post Divorced Women. I love hanging out with other women building extraordinary lives after divorce. Thank you, Ingrid, for having me <3
Should Dating be Faster and Easier?
As a high-achiever, you may find dating more challenging than it ought to be. This episode is a must-listen for all ambitious individuals who often find themselves in the quest for quick results, even in their love lives. I take a candid look into the world of dating, deciphering why it often seems more difficult than it should be.
I talk about the importance of patience and perseverance when navigating the dating landscape and look into the impacts of instant gratification, and how it eventually makes the dating journey tougher. I also discuss why it's essential to stop beating yourself up for wanting things to be easier and faster, and instead focus on cherishing your individual dating journeys.
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Dating with Core Values
Ever feel like you're on a wild goose chase in your dating life, constantly second-guessing yourself? In this episode, I discuss about the importance of self-discovery and core value identification for a successful dating journey. I also talk about the importance of really listening to your inner voice in order to understand your wants, needs, and fears. This episode is a call to action for women to put themselves first and avoid the pitfall of self-doubt in the dating arena.
You'll learn how to unlock the power of your core values in making successful dating decisions and how to discern what's vital for your well-being by identifying your ideal relationship type and recognizing potential partners who resonate with your core values. This isn't just about finding a partner; it's about finding yourself.
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Grief, Emergence and Dating After Divorce with Wendy Sloneker
Today's guest, Wendy Slonaker, is a grief and emergence coach. In this episode, she shares her transformative journey through the end of her marriages and her paths to her authentic identity.
Wendy talks about how she used Al-Anon, a 12-step program, to uncover her codependency issues and how she learned to love herself enough to enter a healthy relationship with her wife, Jennifer.
Wendy offers her take on using dating apps for self-discovery and personal growth. We dive into the importance of being intentional when dating and the lessons we learn from the people we connect with.
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Featured on the Show: Wendy Sloneker
Wendy Sloneker is an Emergence Channel and Coach.
Wendy works with innovators, early adopters, and high achievers who are navigating any combination of the 40+ life events that can bring about grief, loss, heartbreak, resentment, or otherwise shadow seasons.
How to Meet Someone New At a Social Event (without being a Weirdo)
Don't let anxiety prevent you from finding the love of your life! Tune in and uncover how to conquer your fears, genuinely connect with others, and ultimately discover the romantic partner you've been searching for. Whether you're meeting people in person or through dating apps, the key lies in being true to yourself and embracing the energy of human connection. Let's kick-start your journey to love and happiness – without any awkwardness!
We dive deep into the root causes of social anxiety and how our innate desire to fit in can hold us back from making meaningful connections. Learn how to reframe these anxieties and make talking to others more comfortable, as well as how to navigate social events without staying invisible or getting trapped in tedious conversations. Plus, we explore the importance of authenticity and connection in dating, and how showing up as your true self can attract your best match
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Relationship Anxiety - The Source of Most Dating Woes
Are you struggling with relationship anxiety? In this episode, I share my insights on how anxiety can cause a fluctuating sense of self when we're around people and why it can be hard to pinpoint the root of the issue. Listen in as we explore how relationship anxiety can manifest as fear, anger, or annoyance and how it can lead to jumping into relationships too quickly or putting up barriers to avoid vulnerability. We also discuss how to evaluate for compatibility and character without putting the other person through hoops.
Additionally, we explore the cultural messaging and conditioning that can cause anxiety around relationships for women. Join me as we discuss how this affects our sense of worthiness and can lead to feelings of not being enough. I challenge you to look at how this messaging is impacting your own life and consider ways that relationship anxiety might be manifesting. Don't miss the opportunity to learn more about navigating relationship anxiety and finding the love you deserve.
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Divorce and Breaking Chains of Societal Expectations with Life Coach Brig Johnson
Have you ever felt like you were living a life that wasn't yours? Like you were just going through the motions, trying to please everyone else but yourself? My friend and fellow life coach, Brig Johnson, knows that feeling all too well. In this powerful conversation, Brig shares her inspiring journey of finding her true self in the midst of a crumbling marriage and forging a new identity that led her to become a multiple six-figure life coach.
We dive deep into the mental load that women carry, making it difficult for them to pursue their dreams and achieve greatness. Brig opens up about her experience with societal expectations and how she bravely embraced her spontaneous nature to overcome these obstacles. From people-pleasing wife to unstoppable force, Brigg's transformation is nothing short of awe-inspiring.
Join us as we explore the power of self-coaching and how it played a pivotal role in Brig's journey to rewrite her story. Find out how taking ownership of her life and letting go of perfectionism set her free and empowered her to make the changes she needed. This conversation is a testament to the importance of fighting for yourself and staying determined in your pursuits. Don't miss this incredible episode!
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Featured on the Show: Brig Johnson
Brig Johnson helps HIGH ACHIEVING WOMEN BECOME UN-F*CKWITHABLE! Coming from a background as an Advanced Practice health care provider, Brig has built a successful 6-figure life business. Her brash, direct style helps clients see themselves with clarity, her compassion keeps them coming back. Her business motto is “better business through sufficiency.” The more we accept and connect with ourselves, the better we connect with our clients and customers and their dreams.